FIND YOUR SOURCE OF COMFORT



HOLD ON TIGHT: have faith and trust in someone to restore lost hope 

All of us need to have someone strong on our side; someone we can always rely on and call upon whenever we are feeling down. We will always need a shoulder to cry on, irrespective of our age. We need a person who is special, that we can trust and talk to about our fears and disappointments.

We cannot go through life alone. We need advice from mentors, role models and elders to look up to and turn to for advice. We need to have people who have walked the path before, to help us see our way through and who have achieved success, to help us as we start our journey.

I believe that a nation without a counsel will fail, but with it we are sure of success. This shows that although we may be educated, knowledgeable and mature, we need a person to advise us through life and that will make us better individuals.

Most us make the wrong decision because there is not anyone to guide them. So start surrounding yourself with people who are successful and who have a positive influence on your life. Imagine taking advice from someone who has not been successful in his or her life, be careful of who you pick as your advisor.

You need a person who will listen to you. A person who will not just hear your words but listen to what you are saying and come up with solutions or ways to solve the problem. He or she must also be willing to help you make great decisions that will have an influence on your life.

You might have all in life but without a shoulder to cry on; your wealth and expensive goods means nothing. Knowing that you are loved and cared for motivates you to do better in life. Find your source of comfort.

RUNAWAY LOVE



There is no FEAR in LOVe . but perfect LOVe drives out FEAR



Love that feels too good to be true is sometimes too much for a person to handle. This kind of love makes you say, do and think of stupid things. It is the kind of love that takes over your thoughts and makes you feel weak and inferior to others.

At the beginning of this year it was reported that a University of Johannesburg student died at her hostel residence. It was alleged that an illegal abortion could be the reason for her death, Read more. Recently in the news headlines, a University of Pretoria student had shot herself in the stomach at the day of her graduation, alleging that she was trying to commit suicide because she had failed her studies, Read More .

According to (Frank Sant'Agata; 1996), Fear is an unpleasant feeling aroused by the threat of danger, evil and pain whereas Love is a passionate and strong liking of someone. Love and fear work hand in hand. You treat the people that you love with the knowledge that you do not want to disappoint, hurt or lose them.

Both of these incidence and many others could have been handled differently and it saddens me that certain actions were taken out of fear and love for their family and friends. What I am trying to get out here is that love controls your behaviour and decisions that you make, whether they will or will not hurt the people you love and care about.

Love follows us wherever we go so make a decision to give and receive love from others. Do not be afraid, we all abound to fail there and there but our ability to get up, learn and teach from our experiences makes us conquerors and achievers.

LOVE BEING YOU



YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE:
By bumnew.com



Life is full of ups and downs, and at one time or another, we all feel sad, lonely and blue. Everyone wants to live a happy and peaceful life. Self- esteem is a state of mind. By changing your thinking you can boost your self-esteem and create a happy and fulfilling life.

People spend a lot of time looking in the wrong places for their self-esteem. We keep getting involved in unhealthy relationships that hurt us and leave us devastated. We resist change and cling to sameness. We always want things that we can not have and can not see the things that we are blessed with. We have grown to be more comfortable with being victims that are ruled by fear.

What we need to do instead is to realise that self- esteem is a state of mind that can be changed, Read more. We should train our minds not to only focus on the negative attitudes because then we limit our lives and opportunities. The positivity in that is that we are able to boost our self-esteem by looking a these eight positive steps, that will help you view your life in a different way:

1.    Sing in the car on your way to work or school, while cleaning or doing the laundry

2.    Include yourself when you think of your favourite people

3.    Surround yourself with people that respect and care about you

4.    Spend time with upbeat people

5.    Learn to enjoy your own company

6.    When you are in a bad mood and feel as if it will last forever, remind yourself that it will pass

7.    Be grateful for all the things you have and STOP whining

8.    For today resolve only things that demand resolution and deal with tomorrow, tomorrow

These steps will help you look within and examine who you are with a new frame of reference so that you can transform your life into a happy and fulfilling one. Do not stay too fixed in one possession, move around and explore. Find out what your life is all about and where it is taking you.

DEATH DOES WONDERS FOR YOU

It is not an unusual thing that happens but when death strikes a family it is surely seen as an unexpected tragedy that many fail to overcome and conquer. Death can never be prepared and planned for. We have all lost family members and friends but if we were about to get calls stating that someone close has passed on we would lose our minds and suddenly fall apart as if this has never happened.

Death could never become a normal thing that happens such as celebrating birthdays, wedding anniversaries etc., but it is something that we all know is bound to happen somewhere along our life cycle.

Many people that have lost friends, family and pets find it extremely hard to move on. I am not talking about forgetting about the presence and the existence of another. I am talking about what happens after the loss of someone loved dearly. This blog contains the five guidelines that I think one should consider.

STEP ONE:  ACCEPT

My mother only learnt that my father was gone after seven years of his passing; she told me that it only clicked when she saw herself mowing the lawn one morning and that broke her down. But accepting his death set her free and gave her new strength of starting all over again, on her own.

STEP TWO: CRY

There is nothing wrong with crying when feeling sad and lonely. You got so used to having this person or pet with you every day, which makes it okay to have some sense of emptiness. So kick, jump, shout and even sing to let it all out. In exchange, freedom and power will suddenly take over your life.

STEP THREE: CELEBRATE

Celebrating the life of the deceased is highly important .Do the things that you used to do with the deceased such as hiking, painting random portraits, watching scary movies and so on. Though it might not be same but it is the thought that counts. Thinking of them reminds you of how wonderful there were. Those moments are treasured .

STEP FOUR: HAVE FUN

Start doing things on your own. Make some time for yourself where you concentrate on what you enjoy doing for example drawing, sewing, writing poems etc. This is such a great step in redefining yourself and who you are supposed to be. The same way that you depended on the deceased is the same way that others love and depend on you. So live abundantly with no excuse and fears.

STEP FIVE:  LIVE IN THE MOMENT

The last step is the most crucial because as an individual it is very important to be spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally stable. Know what your life is about and what outcomes you want. Be present in every aspect of your life. It is okay to have some regrets but let that not be an excuse to not fulfil every desire, wish and dream.

I hope these guidelines will help you step into a new world with more opportunities, love and grace.