DEATH DOES WONDERS FOR YOU

It is not an unusual thing that happens but when death strikes a family it is surely seen as an unexpected tragedy that many fail to overcome and conquer. Death can never be prepared and planned for. We have all lost family members and friends but if we were about to get calls stating that someone close has passed on we would lose our minds and suddenly fall apart as if this has never happened.

Death could never become a normal thing that happens such as celebrating birthdays, wedding anniversaries etc., but it is something that we all know is bound to happen somewhere along our life cycle.

Many people that have lost friends, family and pets find it extremely hard to move on. I am not talking about forgetting about the presence and the existence of another. I am talking about what happens after the loss of someone loved dearly. This blog contains the five guidelines that I think one should consider.

STEP ONE:  ACCEPT

My mother only learnt that my father was gone after seven years of his passing; she told me that it only clicked when she saw herself mowing the lawn one morning and that broke her down. But accepting his death set her free and gave her new strength of starting all over again, on her own.

STEP TWO: CRY

There is nothing wrong with crying when feeling sad and lonely. You got so used to having this person or pet with you every day, which makes it okay to have some sense of emptiness. So kick, jump, shout and even sing to let it all out. In exchange, freedom and power will suddenly take over your life.

STEP THREE: CELEBRATE

Celebrating the life of the deceased is highly important .Do the things that you used to do with the deceased such as hiking, painting random portraits, watching scary movies and so on. Though it might not be same but it is the thought that counts. Thinking of them reminds you of how wonderful there were. Those moments are treasured .

STEP FOUR: HAVE FUN

Start doing things on your own. Make some time for yourself where you concentrate on what you enjoy doing for example drawing, sewing, writing poems etc. This is such a great step in redefining yourself and who you are supposed to be. The same way that you depended on the deceased is the same way that others love and depend on you. So live abundantly with no excuse and fears.

STEP FIVE:  LIVE IN THE MOMENT

The last step is the most crucial because as an individual it is very important to be spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally stable. Know what your life is about and what outcomes you want. Be present in every aspect of your life. It is okay to have some regrets but let that not be an excuse to not fulfil every desire, wish and dream.

I hope these guidelines will help you step into a new world with more opportunities, love and grace.